CONSCIOUS DETOX GUIDE
Get ready to grow wider, bigger, deeper, higher than you've ever dared before
ONE
BREAKING FREE FROM INVESTMENT RESISTANCE
Many high-achieving professionals struggle with believing they deserve investment in their own growth. Whether thats taking time out, spending money on meaningful things or even asking for help. If you've ever felt guilty about taking time or money for yourself, or worried that nothing will really change despite your efforts, you're experiencing a debilitating limitation around self worth and value. You will most likely put others needs before your own and either feel depleted or resentful or worse both.
THE CONSCIOUS DETOX APPROACH:
When we make the claim that our worth is non negotiable, everyone in our orbit benefits. When you cleanse these disempowering thoughts and perceptions, most likely passed down through others limitations, about finances, how valuable you are, and how much time and space you take up, everything shifts. Boundaries become easier, resentment dissolves and joy exudes in abundance.
AFTER CONSCIOUS DETOX:
“My worth is non-negotiable. Investing time, money and support in myself is safe and good for me and everyone in my orbit benefits.”
→ Do this now: Block a weekly “Investment Hour” in your calendar AND DO SOMETHING FOR YOU. Delegate three low-energy tasks to people you know are capable.
“I take up the time and space I need without apology. Clear boundaries keep resentment out and let joy in.”
→ Do this now: Use this script when asked for more than you can give: “Thank you for asking. I’m at capacity at the moment.
“Money is a tool I use to invest in my life's potential, and it returns energy, clarity and impactful results.”
→ Do this now: Purchase the self care items, book the session/course you’ve delayed, and track your Return-on-Investment.
TWO
CLEANSING EARLY CHILDHOOD CONDITIONING
In the early years the brain is wiring at high speed. Children learn “what the world is like” and “who I am” mainly through felt experiences with caregivers: safety or threat, welcome or rejection, repair or rupture. Most beliefs formed are implicit (felt-sense stories) rather than logical sentences. Your childhood environment shaped your adult subconscious responses from year 0-7; think triggers, habits and thoughts cycles;
Age 0–2: Safety maps. The nervous system learns regulation through the caregiver. Consistent soothing, eye contact, tone and touch teach: “I’m safe, needs get met.” Inconsistency or harshness can plant “I’m too much / it’s not safe to need.
Age 2–4: Autonomy + limits. Language and independence grow. Reactions to “mess, mistakes, big feelings” shape self-talk: firm, kind limits and curiosity foster capable, connected; shaming or dismissing feelings seeds guilt, doubt, shutdown or pushback.
Age 4–7: Meaning-making. Children use simple stories and “cause = me” logic. Repeated labels, comparisons and models become identities: “I’m helpful/creative/lovable” or “I’m naughty/too sensitive/only loved when perfect.”
THE CONSCIOUS DETOX APPROACH:
Conscious Detox helps you cleanse survival patterns and responses that served you then but don't now. We nurture what may have been neglected, reclaim what was not protected and heal what was broken. All whilst gaining awareness to your strengths and wisdom. Old patterns are quietened to make space for new ones. You will be able to recognise when old patterns surface and respond, not react frrm a place of emotionally intelligent consciousness
AFTER CONSCIOUS DETOX:
"I am safe now; my needs are welcome".
→ Do this now: Hand to heart, three slow breaths; name one need out loud and take one small step to meet it today.
“I take up time and space with confidence and ease.”
→ Do this now: Start to take note of the times you apologise for speaking, stay quiet or dismiss something you want to say or do for fear of being rejected.
“I define my story; I am enough.”
→ Do this now: Write down one old label you’re releasing, for example "I am not good enough" tear it up, then write your new truth and stick it somewhere you’ll see daily.
THREE
UPGRADING YOUR ENERGY SYSTEMS
Whether you're constantly exhausted, experience energy swings, high functioning or burnt out, changing your relationship with energy will positively affect everything and everyone else around you. Often times mood swings, radical energy spikes and lethargic lows are symptoms of fight-flight-freeze-fawn responses operating in the background of your day to day interactions. When we are unaware of how to protect our energetic boundaries we can easily be drained, sucked in to something we dont want to do or get stuck in overwhelm and procrastination
THE CONSCIOUS DETOX APPROACH:
Conscious Detox helps you cleanse energy patterns and responses through the nervous system. Chronic exhaustion often signals an imbalance in the body responses versus the reality. When our underlying signals are conflicting with our actual experience, It can feel like we have one foot on the accelerator and one on the break. You may not even be conscious of this and wondering why you feel exhausted. If we carry unresolved trauma or have a bucketloads of negative experiences we didn’t resolve, we can spend enormous amounts of background energy managing threat detection, perfectionism, or people-pleasing. Think of the “automatic refresh apps” button on your iphone - always sucking energy from the battery to update apps not in use. It’s the same for stored subconcious trauma and wounds, refreshing and replaying underneath. Conscious Detox cleanses these background survival programs and upgrades your energy systems for sustainable vitality
AFTER CONSCIOUS DETOX:
"My energy flows steady and strong throughout the day".
→ Do this now: Take three deep belly breaths, unclench your jaw, and drop your shoulders.
“I release the struggle and take action whilst moving with confidence and ease.”
→ Do this now: → Choose one task today to complete. Do it simply, without overthinking or perfecting.
“I protect my energy in-put and out-put with clear, defined and kind boundaries.”
→ Do this now: Say no to one draining request this week and schedule 20 minutes for rest or a gentle walk instead.
FOUR
GENTLY DIFFUSING TRIGGER PATTERNS
From little things, big things grow. Relationship dynamics, work pressure, financial worry, or other environmental stressors can derail even your best intentions when your default trigger patterns takes over. You know how it goes, you’re happy, content and enjoying life and suddenly someone looks, says or does something that has you reeling, but why? What is going on really? The way we learned to store and release our emotions differed from caregiver to caregiver and the way we were taught to relate and communicate these big emotions doesn't always serve us well in the adult life. Oftentimes, something small can trip us up, triggering a shame spiral, rage, withdrawal and unnecessary conflict, usually triggered by the “little things”
THE CONSCIOUS DETOX APPROACH:
Every time you respond with conscious awareness instead of unconscious reaction, and make decisions with love, safety and advocacy, not resentment, fear and worry, it ripples throughout the family and everyone you relate to. Professional stress hits differently when you're carrying subconscious perfectionism or imposter beliefs that may cause you to over perform, set unrealistic goals and swamp into overwhelm. Conscious Detox safely and gently defuses these reactive patterns at the core and installs new patterns that cultivate emotional intelligence and secure, safe responses.
AFTER CONSCIOUS DETOX:
Partnerships: "I speak confidently and safely from a place of needs, and let go of defence.
→ Do this now: Use this one-liner: “When [you say ... / do ...], I feel [emotion]. and what I need when that happens is [clear ask]. ”
Parenting: “My child is not my past; I lead with warmth, kindness and safe, secure limits.”
→ Do this now: → Get to their eye level, soften your face, take a deep breath and steady your tone. "That was hard, I can hear / see / feel you’re (name emotion) and I’m here.”
Work conflict: “I am safe right here and now; I choose to slow down, take a moment and choose my response.
→ Do this now: Exhale longer than you inhale (4 in, 6 out) for four breaths. Name it: “Old trigger, stand down.” Name the feeling. Buy time with a clean line: “I want to respond well. I’ll come back at [time]”
FIVE
RENEWING RELATIONAL & CONNECTION DYNAMICS
Whether you're overwhelmed by caregiving demands, feeling guilty when you focus on your own needs, get drained or pulled in by others' drama, how you connect and jump in for others reflects your underlying beliefs about love, worth, respect and boundaries that were instilled way back in childhood.
THE CONSCIOUS DETOX APPROACH:
The invisible labour you carry stems from a learned or inherited belief that others' needs matter more than yours. Conscious Detox upgrades your relationship connectivity by releasing dysfunctional or imposing relational patterns learned through your own caregivers. You can care for others from a place of self care and overflow rather than self abandonment and depletion. Attachment (or lack thereof) during infancy has a lot to do with the way we relate as adults. Understanding attachment styles and identifying where your needs were not met gives you the wisdom to relate with a deep understanding of what boundaries are and which ones feel safe and empowering for you as well as using emotional intelligence to respond rather than react, connect rather than avoid.
AFTER CONSCIOUS DETOX:
"My boundaries are clear and kind; respect is my standard.
→ Do this now: Write down and se this drama-exit line: “I want us to connect respectfully, let’s continue when we’re both calm, we can revisit at [time].”
“I release the struggle and take action whilst moving with ease.”
→ Do this now: → Choose one task today to complete. Do it simply, without overthinking or perfecting.
“I protect my energy in-put and out-put with clear kind boundaries.”
→ Do this now: Say no to one draining request this week and schedule 20 minutes for rest or a gentle walk instead.
SIX
UPGRADING YOUR INNER DIALOGUES
Whether your inner voice is harsh and critical, anxious and worried, mixed, or generally kind - this internal relationship shapes everything else and reflects your deepest subconscious programming.
THE CONSCIOUS DETOX APPROACH:
That internal critic isn't your wisdom - it's outdated programming from earlier experiences. Conscious Detox cleanses these harsh internal voices and installs loving, supportive inner guidance as your new default operating system.
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AFTER CONSCIOUS DETOX
"I am on my side, always.”
→ Do this now: Rewrite your last self-criticism as advice to a close friend: one clear, kind instruction you can act on todAY
“My inner voice is calm, clear and kind.”
→ Do this now: → Give the inner critic a name, thank it for trying to protect you, then choose one steady line: “I am safe, I can handle this, one step at a time.”
“I build myself up with every word.”
→ Do this now: Use the 3, 2, 1 rule tonight: note three things you did well, 2 things you wish you’d done better, then one positive statement written with encouragement and kindness.
SEVEN
DETOXING NEGATIVE & DYSFUNCTIONAL MONEY BELIEFS
Whether money feels like "never enough," you say things like “I cant afford it” or you max out your credit card. Financial literacy and planning is not something taught in schools. Perhaps you’re already working toward healthier habits, or you’ve mastered your career and feel relatively secure. One thing I’ve learned through coaching singles, couples and families is our financial relationship reflects deep beliefs about our worth, safety, and whether we deserve something or not. Peoples perception of abundance is a vast spectrum where some are in survival mode, some feel quite well off living from pay check to pay check whilst others have millions and feel empty, lost and ironically in a lack mentality.
THE CONSCIOUS DETOX APPROACH:
Scarcity programming creates reactive financial decisions where fear controls your choices. Desires for wealth can motivate someone to do extremely well financially but how they grow, manage and spend thier earnings is a totality different thing altogether. Conscious Detox cleanses limiting money beliefs and upgrades your financial programming for wealth organisation, planning and abundance consciousness where wise decision-making comes from innate security and beleif in life and oneself rather than relying on money to solve problems or create solutions.
AFTER CONSCIOUS DETOX
"I am worthy of wealth; money is safe in my hands.”
→ Do this now: Rename a savings account Safety & Growth, set an automatic weekly transfer (stretch higher than what you think you can afford), and move the first amount today.
“I choose clarity over avoidance; numbers steady me.”
→ Do this now: → Take a 10-minute money date: open your accounts, note today’s balances, cancel one unused subscription or set one bill alert.
“I spend and save from trusting values, and let go of fear.”
→ Do this now: For the next non-essential purchase, use a 24-hour pause. If it aligns with you needs, proceed; if not, release it and add the amount you would have spent to your Safety & Growth account instead.
EIGHT
CREATING POSITIVE BOUNDARY PATTERNS
Boundaries for some can feel extremely difficult, almost like death if they dare to say no, and for others they can lock people out or push people away by having boundaries that are hurtful or self sabotaging for fear of being let down or hurt. Some of us can practice setting boundaries but regret it afterward. You may be at the stage where you're getting better with practice, or you are comfortable to set clear boundaries naturally. Whatever your experience with boundaries, they reflect your innate beliefs about self-worth and safety.
THE CONSCIOUS DETOX APPROACH:
Boundary difficulties stem from subconscious programming that others' comfort matters more than your needs. Conscious Detox cleanses these people-pleasing patterns and upgrades your programming so healthy boundaries feel natural and guilt-free.
AFTER CONSCIOUS DETOX
“My YES is wholehearted, my NO stands strong yet kind.”
→ Do this now: Choose one wobbling boundary and say: “No, thank you. I’m not available for this,” then stop explaining.
“I honour connection and self-respect at the same time.”
→ Do this now: → Use a Care + Limit line: “I care about you/this, and I can offer (insert amount of time/ skill) on (enter date/time)”
“I am safe even if someone is disappointed. It is ok to disappoint people”
→ Do this now: Pause before replying, wait 60 seconds and read this note: “Discomfort isn’t danger,” then choose the response you know you want.
NINE
UPGRADING YOUR CONNECTION TO PURPOSE
Whether you feel lost and searching, going through the motions, actively exploring, or deeply connected to purpose - this reflects your subconscious programming about meaning and self-expression.
THE CONSCIOUS DETOX APPROACH:
Purpose confusion often stems from innate and inherited beliefs and values about what's "acceptable" or "safe" to desire. We may have had opportunities in life that out=r caregivers never had and therefore their beliefs could have been instilled at an early age. even though we had different experiences our purpose can still be driver from thier desires or limitations. Conscious Detox cleanses these limiting beliefs and upgrades your subconscious to align with your authentic calling and gifts.
AFTER CONSCIOUS DETOX
“I give myself full permission to desire and create what it is that lights me up.”
→ Do this now: Write three honest “I want…” statements without editing or softening; write down what action you can take toward it today..
“My gifts, values and work align in one clear direction.”
→ Do this now: → Choose a three-word North Star (e.g., Serve • Create • Heal or Teach • Lead • Guide ); Write down one thing you need to do towards achieving each of those and block 45 minutes this week to take purposeful action towards them.
“I choose action and momentum over perfection.”
→ Do this now: Start a daily 10-minute Purpose Pause; remove one non-aligned commitment to make room for it.
Example
Today’s North Star: (ie Create)
One step I will take: (ie write down a list of materials required for creation)
Start time and place: (ie when and where to purchase materials)
Release: (ie fear around spending money on items)
Alignment score 0–5: (ie how easy does it feel to achieve 0 = hard 5 = effortless)
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